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I was married with a Russian woman. The person I had loved most in my life. I loved her very much. We have had a daughter in 2009. My wonderful daughter was born. But I had been able to be with her only till her 1,5 age.

I just had problems with my stepdaughter who she was 9 when I got marry with my ex wife. My step daughter has a difficult character as well as me and it started challenges, problems and conflicts soon. She had been without father and with his very few love and attention since her 4 years old. She is a leo as zodiac sign and requires a kingdom to decree and she had always had such conditions as her mom feels responsibility in her bad fate. But I could not accept to be managed by a 9 years old girl. And I was not mature and experienced enough at parenting to manage the circumstance. An endless struggle and competition started and it leaded problems with my wife. I commented her acts as violations of my rights and tried not to give permission. Now I feel regret for some of my acts very much. Moreover I realise that in some cases I was not right and I did injustices to my step daughter as she did minor mistakes which any girl in her age could do. Poor my wife had to pay the price and took the consequences once more by destroying her life and marriage. She is so unlucky as not to have a good life and destiny till now though she deserves.

So my wife left me and turned back to Russia with the kids in 2011. After 3 years of separation we divorced with her in August 2014. And she declared she found a new lover, an Englishman from London and she got marry with him in February 2016. She says she will bring the kids to England including my daughter. Poor my daughter she has two citizenships to Russia and Turkey. She can not live in one of these her own countries but she has to be as a migrant in England instead. And the worst is that she will has spent almost all her life without her father since her 1,5.

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3/29/14

I have several reasons.

You asked me a question on phone that day while we were discussing on your plans to move abroad that "what is the difference for you if our daughter lives in Russia or an other country"?

Actually I can live with you anywhere in the world. I would come with you anywhere you want if you allowed me, if we could be together. But you strongly refuse this. I just have an opportunity to live in the same country and city with you but seperately to be able to meet with my daughtyer more often and to be able to see you even from a distance. So I have to move you to that country you will live.

But there are several problems for me at it.

1. I love Russia and it is pleasure for me to be there though its all difficulties, defects and problems. But probably you plan to a western country I never like.

2. It is relatively easier for me to find a way to earn money and to establish a life in Russia due to good commercial relations and opportunities between Turkey and Russia.

3. WE are still married and I can stay in Russia by this marriage as a foreigner but how can I stay in that country?

4. Now I can visit you a few times a year and I can accommodate in your mom's home for a few days and meanwhile I can be with my daughter, I can spend time together, palying games together indoor even in winter cold wheather. But I dont think you can give me permission to accommodate in your home. Especially if you plan to move to an other country because of a possible mariage it is totally impossible for me. Besides it is a real disaster for me to learn this and nevertheless to witness personally.

5. I dont want my daughter to be brought up in the western culture.

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